Getting engaged is a big deal — and it deserves a celebration that feels totally like you. Before you dive into guest lists and Pinterest boards, take a deep breath and soak it all in. This is your moment.
Whether you dream of a laid-back backyard dinner or a blowout bash with everyone you love, your engagement party is about celebrating the beginning of something beautiful. Ahead, we’re sharing the why, the how, and a list of creative ways to make it feel truly personal.
Why throw an engagement party?
Celebrating your engagement is a joyful way to mark the beginning of your wedding journey — and your life together. That might include planning a photo shoot (for more inspo on that front, check out these 20+ engagement photo poses), sharing the news with your people, or throwing an engagement party to toast the beginning of your forever.
An engagement party is meant to bring your loved ones together to share your commitment and celebrate what they love about you as a couple. Plus, engagement party planning is like the dress rehearsal for wedding planning — a great way to work out your wedding theme or style, refine your wedding guest list, and experience your first event as the newly engaged, nearly wed, happy couple.
There is no hard and fast rule about engagement parties. You can make your engagement party as big or small, or as formal or chill as you like. Consider your personal tastes and styles as well as your vision for what the wedding will look like. This is the first pre-wedding party that will tie all of your future wedding events together. Get excited to jump in!
Below, you’ll find a mix of traditional and totally unique engagement party ideas and themes to help you as you plan your dream engagement party.
Food & drink-centered party ideas
You can’t go wrong with good food and drinks, especially when you're celebrating something this big. These ideas are perfect if you want to raise a glass, share a meal, and toast to your next chapter with the people who know and love you best.
1. Dinner
Delicious meals make excellent engagement parties. Hosting your close friends and family around a table (or tables) to share food and drinks is both classic and classy. Decide if you want a sit-down dinner or buffet style, whether you want to go to a restaurant or be in your home or a family member's home.
A special touch for smaller invite lists: hire a private chef and customize a menu of your favorite foods. Bon appétit!
2. Dessert Party
There's nothing sweeter than a newly engaged couple, so how about serving up nothing but sweet treats? Set up a baked goods buffet, or ask your guests to bring their favorite confections for an engagement party potluck. Pair pastries with champagne or tea to really sweeten the deal. Want your guests to take home an engagement party gift for later? DIY dessert with a cookie or cake decorating party.
3. Cocktail Party
Toast to your commitment with creative cocktails, perhaps even design a signature cocktail that speaks to your unique coupledom. You can reserve private space at a bar or lounge to sip and mingle, or invite a mixologist to teach you and your engagement party guests how to craft a favorite beverage.
Pro tip: commit to a build-your-own drink station with tons of options, and see what your guests come up with. Maybe even give a prize to your favorite or award it the position of signature cocktail at the wedding.
4. BBQ
Grease up the grill, fill a cooler with craft beers, and set up backyard games for an engagement party barbecue bonanza. Serve up traditional burgers and hot dogs, or sweet and savory BBQ skewers, and challenge your friends and family to socialize over corn hole or bocce ball.
5. Brunch
Prefer breakfast over dinner? A brunch engagement party has all the delights of dinner but with mornings in mind. It can be a formal party or a casual affair, with sweet and savory brunch cuisine, coffee, mimosas, and Bloody Marys served. Take brunch inside or outside, and theme your engagement party brunch if you so choose.
6. Themed potluck dinner
Invite your closest friends and have everyone bring a dish tied to your favorite cuisine or a shared memory. Think: taco night, Mediterranean spread, or your dream honeymoon destination on a plate. It’s fun, low-stress, and full of personal touches.
7. Wine Tasting
An engagement party splurge? Wine not? You may decide to take a wine tasting trip with your nearest and dearest to kick off the adventures to come. Or, spring for a sommelier (friend or hired) to come do a private wine tasting engagement party at home, complete with education on grapes and wine pairings. Don't forget the hors d'oeuvres! If you prefer bubbles, make it a champagne tasting.
8. Taco + tequila night
Host a relaxed evening filled with tacos, margaritas, and lots of laughter. Set up a DIY salsa bar or do a casual tequila tasting with your favorite pairings. It’s festive, flavorful, and the perfect excuse to gather with your favorite people.
Outdoor & laid-back party ideas
If you love sunshine, fresh air, or just want to keep things chill, these outdoor and easygoing engagement party ideas might be your perfect match. You’ll find plenty of space to relax, connect, and make memories without a ton of fuss.
9. Movie Night
If you're a couple of movie buffs, a screening soiree is the picture-perfect way to celebrate your engagement party. You can get pretty creative with a projector outside, unless, of course, you have access to a screening room for guests to cozy up in. Otherwise, set up blankets, floor cushions, and beach chairs, pop some popcorn, and fill gift bags with assorted movie candy. Screen a fun rom-com or your favorite film.
Extra credit if you have cinematic footage of the actual engagement to show off!
10. Picnic
Pack an engagement party picnic, and head for the park. There isn't an easier backdrop for hosting big life events, whether you set up on a grassy knoll or at the picnic tables near the grill. And a picnic is the perfect opportunity for a crowd-sourced celebration. Ask guests to contribute to an engagement party picnic potluck and to bring gifts to play with, like a frisbee or water balloons.
11. Pool Party
If the weather permits and you have access to a pool, throwing a pool party is joyful, inner-child, summer fun, and the perfect way to celebrate your engagement. Send invitations with instructions to bring a bathing suit and wear sunscreen, and let the swimming and splashing in the name of love commence. Consider pool games, squirt guns, and boozy popsicles to go along with the pool party festivities.
12. Bonfire
Cozy up for an engagement party bonfire. Think: s'mores, sing-alongs, and sips of hot bevvies. A sweet bonfire bonding moment: have your guests join you in writing and burning intentions for a blessed marriage to come.
Extra credit for the guests who bring guitars for a smoky singalong around the fire.
13. Camping
Extend the bonfire vibes with a little overnight outing. Especially for a smaller group of outdoor explorers, an engagement party getaway to camp (or glamp, if that's more your thing) is an adventurous and ruggedly intimate way to honor your new commitment.
14. Boat Party
Set sail with your loved ones for an engagement party on a boat. Picture sunset on the deck, sparkling waters, and bubbly to toast. Sounds pretty magical. Not to mention, cruising on the open waters with your friends and family is a great way to ensure no one leaves early! Take it up a notch with a nautical-themed dress code on the engagement party invites.
15. Garden party
Host a dreamy backyard celebration with twinkle lights, fresh blooms, and bubbly. Keep it casual with picnic blankets or go all out with vintage tea sets and lawn games. Add a playlist, finger foods, and a floral dress code for that effortlessly romantic vibe.
Creative themed party ideas
You’re not a cookie-cutter couple, so your celebration shouldn’t be either. These ideas are full of personality and fun, giving you space to play, express yourselves, and invite guests into the story of who you are together.
16. Murder Mystery
Invite your engagement party attendees to work together and solve a crime. You can find kits online that will give you roles to play and provide a storyline. There's something irresistible about engagement party invitations that ask for your guests' playful participation.
It's a great way to get your close family and friends to interact and have fun together, especially if you're combining groups of people that don't yet know each other. You can think of it as team building for the best crew of outgoing problem solvers who will eventually be there to help you solve everything related to the wedding (and married life)!
17. Photo scavenger hunt
Make a list of meaningful or quirky spots around town and spend the day finding them together. Snap selfies, take Polaroids, and relive memories as you go. It’s a sweet, personal way to reflect on your story and capture the joy of this new chapter.
18. Bookstore bash
Celebrate your engagement surrounded by stories you love. Visit your favorite local bookstore, pick a book for each other, and then head to a cozy café for coffee and treats. You can even write messages to each other inside the covers.
19. Pet party
If you share a pet (or just love animals), plan a party that includes them in the fun. Think pet-friendly treats, party hats, and a little photo booth setup. It’s playful, heartwarming, and a celebration everyone, including furry friends, can enjoy.
20. Open mic night
Step out of your comfort zone with a night of music, poetry, or storytelling. Whether you take the stage or just cheer each other on, it’s a unique way to connect through creativity. Bonus points if you surprise your partner with a custom performance.
21. Craft Party
Are you a DIY loving duo? Get artsy with an engagement party craft day or night. Consider having your guests paint pottery for your future home as wedding gifts with a personal touch. Or line tables with paints, brushes, and flower pots, and send them home with a personal painted planter and your favorite flower seeds to grow.
Pro tip: Invite a pro to guide a paint and sip, and have everyone paint the same picture, perhaps something related to your love or wedding theme.

Pastel Bow by Stephanie Heinrich Godbout
22. Music Mingle
For the couple who loves music, jam out at your engagement party. Set up a silent disco, and watch your guests' uninhibited dance moves. Book a live band, invite friends to add to the newly engaged couple's record collection, or cue the karaoke machine.
Pro tip: use your engagement party as an opportunity to build the playlist for your wedding day, asking guests to contribute their favorite party songs to a master playlist.
23. Costume Party
Engagement parties are typically less formal occasions than the wedding day itself, so feel free to be a little quirky and play dress up at yours. You may have a certain decade in mind--a 70s disco or a roaring '20s gala. You could have a Halloween-themed engagement party, especially if you get engaged in the Fall. Require your guests to all wear a specific color, or pass out colorful wigs at the door.
24. Game Night
For the gamers in love, get a little friendly competition going with an engagement party game night. Bust out the board games, charades, and Pictionary, and watch all the guests engage with one another, and probably laugh a lot together. Maybe you ask that they bring gifts in the form of their favorite board game to add to your collection. Perhaps you make it official with name tags and prizes.
Unique & memorable party ideas
If you’re looking to connect on a deeper level, create something memorable together, or give back as part of your celebration, these ideas are for you.
25. Staycation getaway
Book a cute Airbnb in another city, unplug from the usual routines, and just enjoy each other’s company. Order room service, binge a new show, or explore your hometown like tourists. You don’t have to go far to make it feel special — sometimes a change of scenery is all you need.
26. Sports game outing
If you’re both into sports, grab tickets to a home game and cheer on your favorite team. Coordinate jerseys or create custom hats to show off your team spirit. It’s a fun, energetic way to celebrate your engagement with plenty of stadium snacks included.
27. Spa day
Treat yourselves to a day of pampering and relaxation. Book a couples massage, unwind with facials, or set up a DIY spa night with candles and bathrobes at home. It’s the perfect way to recharge and reconnect while celebrating something big.
28. Seasonal celebration
Tie your engagement celebration to the season to make it feel even more memorable. A cozy bonfire in fall, a backyard BBQ in summer, or a winter hot cocoa bar adds a fun and festive twist. Let the season inspire the food, decor, and even the dress code.
29. Charity gala
Celebrate your love by giving back to a cause that means something to you. Attend a fundraiser, auction, or gala, or even organize your small-scale giving event. It’s a beautiful way to make your engagement about more than just you — it becomes a moment that gives back.
Frequently asked questions (FAQs) about engagement parties
From who hosts to what to wear, here are the most common engagement party FAQs to help you confidently plan and celebrate.
Who throws the engagement party?
The bride’s parents traditionally host the engagement party, but today, anyone close to the couple can throw the event — including the couple themselves. There’s no one-size-fits-all answer here, and that’s a good thing. The best host is excited to celebrate your love and help set the tone for future events. Whether it’s family or friends, what matters most is making it feel personal.
What should guests bring to an engagement party? Do you give gifts?
Guests often wonder what to bring to an engagement party. While gifts aren’t required, many attendees like to give something small to mark the occasion. A bottle of wine, a candle, or a keepsake that reflects the couple’s story is always appreciated. If you do want to bring a gift, we’ve got plenty of ideas for you.
How far in advance should you plan the engagement party?
You should plan your engagement party about 1 to 3 months after the proposal. This gives you enough time to organize something thoughtful while still riding that post-engagement high. The timeline should reflect what feels right for you.
Do you need a theme for an engagement party?
You don’t need a theme for an engagement party, but it can make planning more fun and cohesive. A theme gives you a helpful framework for things like decor, food, and invitations. If you’re unsure where to start, take this wedding style quiz to uncover a vibe that fits you both. The key is to make it feel like your kind of celebration.
Should you send formal invitations for an engagement party?
Yes, you should send formal invitations for an engagement party — even if the gathering is casual. An invite helps set expectations and shows your guests they’re an important part of your celebration. A beautifully designed invitation, digital or printed, makes it feel real and gives everyone the key details upfront. Plus, it’s a chance to hint at your wedding style.
How long should an engagement party last?
An engagement party typically lasts 2–4 hours. That’s just enough time for mingling, speeches, food, and fun without overstaying your welcome. Think of it as a highlight reel of what’s to come. You can always extend the celebration into dinner or drinks if the energy’s right.
Can you invite someone to the engagement party but not the wedding?
It’s not recommended to invite someone to your engagement party if they won’t be invited to the wedding. Most people assume both invitations go hand in hand. Keep your engagement guest list aligned with your intended wedding list to avoid confusion or hurt feelings. It’ll save you some awkward conversations later.
What do you say during an engagement party toast?
During an engagement party toast, you should aim to keep things short, sweet, and heartfelt. Whether you're the host, a parent, or the couple yourselves, focus on what makes this moment special. Share a quick story, offer a warm wish, and let your excitement shine. You don’t have to be a pro speaker — just speak from the heart.
Are there fun games we can play at the engagement party?
Yes, there are plenty of fun engagement party games to help break the ice and bring everyone together. From trivia about the couple to photo challenges and creative icebreakers, games are a great way to add some energy to the room. These bridal shower games work just as well for an engagement party, too. Pick a few that match your vibe and guest list.
Celebrating You!
Your engagement is such an exciting milestone—and throwing a party to celebrate is a beautiful way to honor it. Whether you go all out or keep it small and meaningful, the best engagement party is one that feels like you. Choose the vibe, venue, and guest list that reflect your love story, and don’t worry about following anyone else’s rules.